Special Features & Editorials - Girls Who Bully
Throughout my life the word bully has
conjured up an image of a rather vacant faced beefy guy with a thick
neck and little brain. Someone with no self confidence but with an arm
strong enough to hide that fact.
Last January while watching a group of
beautiful, smiling and talented young girls training for a sporting event I was
shocked and alarmed to find that my stereotypical vision of a bully was
terribly, and very horribly, outdated.
Since that time I have been reading,
interviewing, watching, studying, and all too often lying awake at night
thinking about this problem. I would love to say that what I witnessed
and heard was during another business trip to inner city Detroit or in
far away New Orleans during a winter vacation. It was not. The events
that started me on this voyage to a place that leaves me uncomfortable
and rather shaken happened right here in Northern Ontario.
I've learned that today's bully is just
as likely to be a beautiful, slim, fashion conscious teen or pre teen
girl as it is to be "the dumb jock from the wrong side of the tracks."
I've learned that the publishing industry
is growing fat over the number of books being written about this issue,
I have learned that girl bullies are epidemic and have grown by over 48%
in the last few years, movies are being made about them (Mean Girls was
released on April 30th), news programs are running specials about them,
members of the Canadian government are holding special meetings about
them, some provinces are considering passing laws against them, charges
are being laid against them, and even good old Dr Phil had an episode
recently dealing with
In the coming weeks I will be sharing the
information I've gathered. There will be information on the bullies, the
bullied, and the bystanders who let it happen. There will be information
on what makes a bully, how to deal with them, what is regarded as
bullying, and some real live and local experiences. I'll be reviewing
the books I've read, telling you about the things I've seen firsthand,
and passing on information from people I've interviewed.
The first in this ongoing series will be